Who you are is okay.
You just have to own it.
Are you “help move a couch guy?” Maybe you were, but maybe now you’re not.
Part of my job as your doctor is to help you understand what is wrong with you and how you can deal with it. Sometimes, you come in and we address your problem so that you have 0 pain and 100% function. When that happens, you get a high five and a “see you later.” Sometimes, it’s not that simple. At some point, you aren’t the guy that can help move the couch. Whether that happens at 20, 40, 60, or 80 depends on who you are.
There are some people that are just more durable than others, and it has nothing to do with pushing through pain or wanting it more. Some people are just built more sturdy. Some people have super strong and resilient spines. Some don’t. If you don’t, it doesn’t mean you are a bad person, it just means you aren’t going to be “help move a couch guy” into your 80s.
And guess what? That’s okay. I would rather you not be “help move a couch guy” in your 40s and be able to walk up stairs when you are 80 than you struggle to be “help move a couch guy” into your 60s and needing a spotter to pull up your underpants in your 70s. That’s just me.
That’s also my job…to tell you what you need to know, not what you want to hear.
Oh…and who you are today isn’t necessarily who you will be next year.